Since when was ‘to do life together’ a verb and what on earth does it mean anyway?!

A friend asked me a while ago what I thought it meant when people say ‘let’s do life together’. My first reaction was that it seemed an awfully awkward phrase to begin with, and my second was to wonder if somehow I was not ‘doing life” properly then!

It seems to me that in the fast paced, instantly gratifying, 24/7, global village, same day delivery, now-isn’t-fast-enough world that we live in, the implication is that life is something that can be done, that action is required and therefore change and purpose. It implies that to merely exist is not enough, that we must do more, achieve more, be more. Which raises an obvious question – why?

Social media, blogging, FaceTime, instant updates on events the other side of the world and much more all contribute to more knowledge than ever before. Keeping on top of all of that is a time consuming task in itself (if we choose to allow it to be) and with more and more friends in our networks, the escalation continues. It is so easy to expect everyone to know what’s happening because it’s on a status update or been tweeted. But is that ‘doing life’?

I think when people use the phrase, most often it’s to illustrate the need and value and importance of being present in each other’s lives. It’s fellowship, pure and simple. It’s friendship, it’s supporting one another, it’s dropping by for a cup of tea, it’s serving one another and speaking into one another’s lives.

As to the why we feel the need to do it, to mark it out as special and separate from our fast paced everyday lives, well, I’d suggest that is because we all long for relationship. We were created for relationships, we are meant to be a living body of people supporting and serving each other. What all those social media sites, texts and instant gratification of information can’t give are human contact, soul to soul contact, a hug, a touch, a word from one heart to another.

So how do you ‘do life’? Is it via a screen, whilst wishing and longing for more than that? Or do you have a balance? Or even opt out of social media entirely? I’d love to know your thoughts!

God bless

Rachel x

Welcome to Beautiful Not Useful

Welcome to Beautiful Not Usefula space where I’m excited to share my journey of seeing the beauty in my life. I’m touched that you stopped by to read and hope that you might feel inspired to look for the beauty in your life too.

It can be so easy to put a value on things – not necessarily financial, but how much time or effort or reward or pleasure something can bring – that the beauty in the ordinary and everyday routines of life can also be missed. Even worse, that which is most beautiful can be reduced to how useful it is to us – put another way, we can look for the benefit to ourselves from what we are given rather than the staggering beauty of the one who gives it to us. These past few months have seen huge changes in my life (more on that later!) and even bigger changes in my way of thinking about my purpose, God’s intentions for me, my relationships with Him, my family and others – just about everything in fact!

I’ve been following a few other blogs in the past year and found massive encouragement and inspiration from them – stemming from that was the desire to start writing my own. Everyday I have time to think (usually whilst doing something utterly mundane like hanging up washing or cleaning or driving somewhere to take someone someplace!) and it’s those occasional musings when I think ‘I must remember that…’ which I’d love to share. It’s my prayer that God would use those times to speak not just to me, but to others out there too.

So here’s my first challenge – to stop viewing writing as something that’s useful (all those endless to do lists…), and rather as something that could be beautiful. And to begin a journey of crafting words together to reflect the beauty that surrounds me -ultimately as an active thank you to the Creator who puts it there.

God bless,

Rachel x

What do you think? Do we, as consumers, reduce things to their usefulness, or is it possible to live a different way? I’d love to hear your thoughts so please do leave a comment!